Probably none the Pew readers have ever felt like they would like to change something about themselves — that there is something about oneself that isn’t authentic and thus destructive. But in case you have, and I admit going from one unauthentic thing to another, it’s possible to get rid of that unauthentic part. The mechanism doesn’t come from strong willpower or some latest program that tells you that positive thinking or self-empowerment is the answer. It doesn’t come from friends or family nagging or getting on your case. It is in fact admitting you can’t change by yourself and asking for help. You plant a seed of faith and ask God to nurture it and help it grow. He might send you to counseling, or to a friend, or to a month long retreat at a monastery, or he might ask you take a walk in the garden when there’s an evening breeze, but simply let him work his magic in you. He stands ready to help you become the person he created and wants you to be. Why not go back to creator when one of your parts is out of whack?